Monday, April 30, 2012
my blogging promise to you
I was struck by a recent comment from one of my favorite bloggers. "Looks like a fabulous weekend!" she'd written. I glanced back at the post she had commented on and whole-heartedly agreed. It did look like a wonderful weekend. In fact, there was absolutely no trace of the pain and agony and heartbreak that I had actually been dealing with the last few days. That was intentional on my part. I didn't really want to reveal how hurt I'm feeling right now, how lonely I have been, how sad I am. So, of course, when my dear friend looked at it, she thought, "What a great weekend she must have had!" I did a really good job of covering up the stuff beneath the surface.
But it really convicted me. I'll confess I often find myself making judgements about people based on their blogs. I assume that everything in their life must be perfect because they're blogging about shoes or cupcakes or date nights. (What an unfair thing for me to assume!) But then I read posts like this amazing one that Jenni wrote and I remember that while our blogs should be honest, real representations of who we are, they are not the sum total of who we are. It's okay if we don't write about every personal dot and iota of our identities on our blogs. It's okay if we choose to talk about the happy, safe things even when less happy, less safe things are taking up space in our lives.
So here's my promise to each of you. I promise to think of you as a whole, entire human being with a life outside of your blog. I promise to value what you choose to share, be it cupcakes or personal confessions or anything in between. I promise to imagine the best of you when all I know is a little of you. I promise to be as real as I know how to be. You deserve that from me. Thanks for taking time to read and share the way you do. You mean a lot to me.
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